To move forward, sometime you’ve got to take two steps backward.
Shoemoney wrote a post today asking, “Have you ever lost it all?“ Where he talks about the financial situation of today and the stings some are facing with their own financial situations. He also talks about hitting rock bottom and how it’s helped him to work harder, manage his money better, and eventually succeed.
I wrote a comment to his post that was pretty lengthy and I thought I would share it in a post to let you know where I’m coming from.
I never hit rock bottom the way he has, but I’ve been pretty close to losing everything I have, and being as close to rock bottom as I ever want to get.
My wife and I met in college, we moved in together about a year before we got married. The rent was difficult to pay, and so I quit school and my part-time job to help pay for things.
I started working at a factory 10 hours a day 6 days a week, spending almost no time with her, but to sleep. The pay was minimum wage so I wasn’t making a whole lot. We still had trouble paying for rent and food and such, but we managed.
About 3 months after I took the factory job, I got a phone call. I had been in the military at that time for about 4 years already (National Guard). The person on the other end asked me if I was interested in working full-time for the special events team and it eventually lead into a full-time recruiting position for the guard. My wife and I bought a nice two-story house on the lake, and had a great time, spending money left and right, dragging ourselves deeper into debt. It didn’t matter, I was making good money.
Then came a call for deployment. When a soldier gets deployed for war, by law his civilian employer is required to give his job back when he returns. But the government and the military isn’t. So I was put on deployment orders, and taken from my job that paid for all of these nice things we had.
Long story short, when I got off deployment, I had nothing. Bills were still due, the giant mortgage we had was still due, and we still needed to eat. We got to the point where we were contemplating bankruptcy and losing everything. I was looking for a job, but I was picky about what I wanted to do. I refused anything that wasn’t a certain thing or didn’t pay a certain amount of money.
Then I got off my high horse, I let myself be humbled, and I started looking for any job I could get. I was on the verge of taking one, having to move my family far away from anyone we ever knew, and starting in a place we had never been before.
Until God finally said, “You’ve learned your lesson.” The week before we were to move (house still unsold), I got a phone call from a new company 20 min from my house. The following monday, they hired me.
When I stopped turning my nose up at offers I felt too good for, and started to let myself be humble, God provided me with the job I had always desired. He also taught me to value family more, and to be thankful for what I do have, because not everyone is so lucky.
I appreciate money more, and my situation changed me in a way that I now want to help everyone I can in the same situations I was facing.
You’ll never see me driving a bad ass sports car. Every bit of extra money I get will go to helping others or in a savings account for whenever that situation may come again.
What situations have you been in, that has helped you to be the person you are today?